Why do we want what we want?
If you've listened to my podcast on why we don't yet have what we want, you will have learned that we want most things because of the way they make us feel.
If you ask yourself why you want what you want, and specifically why, enough times you'll come to realize, that you want something because of the way you think you'll feel in the having of it.
We want the business, or the perfect body or the new relationship because we want to feel happy, or accomplished or beautiful or excited.
On the other hand we sometimes find it hard to achieve the things we want, because the process of getting it just feels too uncomfortable half the time.
When we start feeling uncomfortable, we may do external things to make us feel better like buying a new dress or buffer with food or alcohol and our ultimate goal is delayed.
That's why it's so important to have the capacity to manage our feelings so we can feel better more of the time and not let the uncomfortable feelings get in the way of our dreams.
That’s what I discuss in this week's podcast.
I talk about how to manage your feelings and how you can learn to feel better on purpose.
This is what you'll learn:
- External things that make you feel better
- How to feel better from the inside out?
- What determines how we feel?
- How can we take control over our feelings?
- How to pursue a goal from a feeling of abundance?
- How to tap into the feeling you want to create ahead of time.
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Thanks Thanks Thanks so much Sylvia, for sharing this extraordinary podcast. It helped me a lot and will listen to it again. The way you convey the information and give examples makes it very easy to understand. God Bless You
Thanks so much Carmene for your kind feedback! It made my day. So happy to hear that the podcast has helped you.
I totally agree with you. It is already said by Buddha (I think): "It is not the event itself that matters. It is how you react/respond to it." (Or similar words.)
Years ago I went to bed and consciously started to dream about having millions, really a lot of money. The funny thing was, that in my dreams I was getting more and more frustrated with all those millions I "had". Because it created all sorts of problems: who do I give money and how much? Aren't I obliged to share my wealth with my brother? With friends? But: friendship is based on being equal. If I start paying every time for my friends, our relationship will be out of sync. They will start feeling like freeloaders, despite what I will say. We are not equal anymore. I will probably lose all the friends I have now. And if I want to spend the money with people who have the same wealth, I will get into a world which I think is not nice. Money tends to make people less nice.
So in the end, I decided that wishing for millions was absolutely not what I wanted as I love my friends.
Greetje
Good story. That's why it's important to discover WHY you want something so that you're sure you're setting the right goal. Knowing that friends was the most important thing for you is great to know as that's what you can pursue every day in every part of your life.
Of course there are some assumptions and thoughts about having money here that are opinions that can be challenged, but that's a topic for another day 🙂