How to start the journey of loving yourself more

As I'm entering my 23rd year as a business woman I often reflect on how far I've come.

I'm a confident woman now with a successful business that can mostly run on its own.

It wasn't always that way.

I suffered from very low self esteem well into my twenties and wasn't confident at all. I built my confidence by applying the steps I now teach in one of my courses: The Self Confidence Formula.

Sometimes I wish I didn't have to suffer so much in my younger years.

But of course, I also realize that everything happened exactly the way it was supposed to happen for me. Why? Because it's exactly what happened.

And without all the experiences I’ve had, I wouldn’t be such an effective teacher now. I may not even do any of the things I'm doing now.

It’s only because I’ve personally experienced so many of the issues my clients struggle with that I’m able to relate so well. It’s only because I’ve practiced the formula on myself for so many years that I know how powerful and effective it is.

So let me share a personal story with you

I previously told you about the issue with my crossed eyes and I how I blamed all my problems on them. (if not, you can watch the short video below).

Although I was able to resolve this in my twenties (when I started to see myself as a beautiful person, got married and no longer worried about my eyes), I still had many other self limiting issues that affected my self worth.

I became very aware of this in a personal development course that I enrolled in. It was my first introduction into this world and I was keen to make some lasting changes so I could feel happier more of the time. I had just moved to Australia with my husband and wanted to make a fresh start.

Right at the start of the course we were asked to stand on the stage and tell us 3 things others would say about us when we are not in the room. What did they love about you?

That got me very worried. I had no idea what I could say. As the line ahead of me got shorter and shorter, I got more and more nervous. 

By the time I entered the stage I was already an emotional wrack.

As soon as I opened my mouth I emotionally collapsed. it was in that moment that I realized that I had nothing positive to say about myself.

My armor had been hardened. I had been hiding from myself so much (and probably also my husband who got a bit of a shock after seeing me crumble) that I hadn’t even realized that I felt so lowly about myself.

I may have presented myself as a tough, confident and capable woman outwardly but inside I felt worthless.

I still believed I was ‘difficult’.

That I was of ‘average intelligence’.

Not Creative enough.

Not loving enough.

Not lovable.

Unconsciously I had known all of these were still an issue. I wouldn't have take the course if I didn't feel that something was wrong. But it still came as a shock to me that it was THIS bad.

Was it really so hard to stand on a stage and mention just a few things I love about myself?

Apparently yes.

The fact that I can still remember this moment so vividly and can still see some of the worried faces looking at me shows you how significant this moment was. I had become fully aware of the very low esteem I had for myself.

This event marks the moment that I actively started working on my self esteem and confidence and turned a corner. I'm recounting the story in this video I posted on Instagram.

So you can imagine how thrilled I am, that I can now help other women cultivate that true self confidence and self esteem.

Belief in yourself is so important when you want to create the life you want.

It's important for style.

It's important for business.

It's important for your relationships.

I have come such a long way. It’s so easy for me now to mention all the things I love about myself now and that others love about me too.

I love:

  • That I’m so driven - yes some may call it intense, but it’s part of who I am and what makes me ME
  • My honesty - even though it sometimes gets me into trouble
  • My authenticity - you get what you see most of the time
  • My sense of style 
  • My longing for learning and growth
  • My open and trusting nature - yes, it sometimes leaves me open to manipulation but I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt

What I now know is that I’m 100% worthy

And so are you! You achieve that worthiness by just being born.

I feel it now.

That doesn't mean I still suffer sometimes. I do. It's part of life.

It also doesn’t mean I can’t grow as a person.

I’m still learning to be less judgmental (especially of myself)

I’m still learning to express love more easily.

I’m still learning to step even more into my power and become a better leader.

I will never stop learning. I will never stop my quest in becoming the absolute best version of myself and discover what's possible for me.

I still have plenty of time. And so do you!

If you’re ready to tap into your truest fullest potential and fully embrace yourself for who you are, come and learn the Self Confidence Formula and learn how to love being you. 

How confident do you feel? In which areas would you still like to grow?